Understanding the Basics of Self-Harm
Self-harm is a topic that many people struggle to talk about — but silence only makes it harder to heal. At Fantasia Therapy Services, we believe in approaching these conversations with understanding, safety, and compassion.
What Is Self-Harm?
Self-harm is when someone intentionally hurts themselves as a way to cope with intense emotions, numbness, or inner pain. It’s not always about wanting to die — often, it’s about trying to feel something, regain control, or release emotions that feel impossible to hold inside.
What It Can Look Like
Self-harm doesn’t always look the same. It can include:
Cutting, scratching, or burning the skin
Misusing medication or substances
Restricting food or overexercising
Putting yourself in risky or harmful situations on purpose
And sometimes, self-harm isn’t physical — it can also mean repeatedly engaging in negative self-talk or sabotaging relationships because deep down, you feel like you don’t deserve care.
Why People Self-Harm
It’s important to know: self-harm is not “attention-seeking.” It’s a sign of emotional pain that needs understanding and help, not shame.
People might self-harm to:
Cope with overwhelming emotions
Feel something when they feel numb
Express anger or sadness they can’t put into words
Regain a sense of control when life feels chaotic
What Helps
Healing starts with talking about it safely. Reaching out to a therapist, trusted adult, or friend can be the first step toward relief and recovery. Therapy can help build:
Healthier ways to cope with emotions
A deeper understanding of triggers
Skills to replace harm with healing
You are never alone in this — and you are never too far gone to heal.
If you or someone you know is struggling with self-harm, please reach out for support.
If you are in immediate danger, contact 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or go to your nearest emergency room.
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